Once when I was about 10 years old, I awoke very early on a Saturday morning in June. We had just moved into our new house in Rexburg, Idaho, where my father had recently been hired as a professor at Ricks College (now BYU—Idaho). No one else was awake. The sun was not even up, but the windows were open and cool fresh air drifted through the rooms, smelling like the fields around our house. I stole out to the living room, still in the disarray of moving. As I stood there, all quiet in our silent house, the sun came up and shone, brilliant and oblique, into the bare room where I stood. I felt like the day, and my life, were flooded with possibilities. It filled my heart with joy and anticipation.
Of course the day turned into just another Saturday, but ever since then I have loved the morning.
I woke Abby up at 5 am last Saturday and bundled her into the Jeep. It was her day for some time alone with Dad. We drove down along the river and tumbled out, with the dogs, to go exploring. We followed a dirt road for a ways and crossed the railroad tracks. (A train went by with 7 engines in a row and 115 cars—ask Abby!) We climbed steep rocks and skirted the edges of cliffs. We saw flowers and birds and the river curling silently among the cliffs below. And when we got hungry, we clambered back down to the Jeep and jounced home for some breakfast.
I think it’s important to spend one-on-one time with our kids. It’s kind of difficult with my schedule, but it’s pretty important. In between all the work this summer, we’ll do some playing too. And some of it will be early on the summer mornings, before the world is awake, when the sun and swallows are awake and nobody else is. Maybe my kids too will feel the strength of the morning, and fulfill the potential of their day and their lives as I have tried to do.
My memories of mornings with my Dad were always Sunday Mornings. A few of us got up early. My Dad would put on classical music and we would dance. Sometimes he would be our dancing partner and others the audience. An hour later we would be rushing around to get to Church.
My Dad has been gone for four years now— and the memories are 45 years old- but they are like yesterday in my mind.
That special time with a parent is like no other. I am glad people like you still see that. Make sure every one gets some one on one with Mom as well!
Thanks for your comment, bowen. I too put on music and dance with my kids, but it’s always at night, and it’s usually Abba.
Wow. This is an inspiration to me. Some of it’s just your genius in writing – some of it’s just your genius with life. Can I break out of the stale mold and change my family and my life like that? How do you do it Doug?
Where do you want to be? What do you want to do? Make a plan, say your prayers, and go for it.